I changed my living situation so that I could accommodate my grandchildren who moved in with me. The situation was a heavy financial burden on all of us, which leads to my moral dilemma. For days I struggled with how I could allow my sisters to have the burial she wanted. This left me with my own ethical and moral dilemma: Do I spend everything I have to bury my sister, get a coffin, a headstone, a burial site? Or do I just have her cremated? I weighed the option, which was about reason rather than emotion. I still had to survive and make sure her children were taken care of. I also felt a little angry that he would leave all this to me because I had no plan of any kind. All of this in my mind justified the cremation of his remains, and with his ashes I obtained burial necklaces so his boys would have something of his to hold on to. The money I saved by cremating her remains would have left me in a better place to raise her