Karbo says that intimacy generates “intuitive understanding” that is “established through self-disclosure and reciprocity.” It is this quality within friendships that causes friends to think and grow thin. It is also a quality that money cannot buy or destroy. Within friendships, according to Karbo, there is a quality of "giving and not receiving that makes [people] value a friend more." In my friendship, it is Amber who "[took] the risk of self-disclosure of personal information and then 'testing' whether the other person reciprocates." She is always the one who expresses herself explicitly within our relationship, while I am the one who needs to know when to act accordingly in various situations. It's not that I'm not willing to reveal myself, but there really isn't much to know about me. Having been with Amber for a couple of weeks Amber has already made me understand what to exclude and who the real me is, while for Amber her family finds themselves in a very particular situation. So, I'm usually the comforting individual within this relationship, the ear that Amber can talk to. Amber's father always manages to put his family through various tribulations due to his gambling problem, thus forcing his family to barely hang on. With Amber the situation is so delicate that I constantly have to be careful of her emotions. The reciprocity of knowing and understanding each other is what really