Ramsay experiences the effects in the way he plays his wife. Instead of seeking good and looking for ways to empathize with his wife, Mr. Ramsay constantly humiliates her. After dinner, when Mrs. Ramsay is between the state of reading her book and sleeping, Mr. Ramsay actively searches for reasons why she is inferior and less valuable as a person. He smiles at her, “questioningly, as if he were gently teasing her for sleeping in broad daylight, but at the same time he thought: Read on. You don't look sad, he thought. And he wondered if she understood what he was reading, and he exaggerated his ignorance with his simplicity, because he liked to think that she wasn't intelligent, wasn't book-savvy at all. Probably not, he thought (Woolf 121).” This really shows how distorted Mr. Ramsay's readings of other people are due to his crippling insecurities. As Mrs. Ramsay continues to try to share an emotional bond with her husband on a daily basis, Mr. Ramsay thinks of her in a derogatory manner. This shows the root of their marital problems. Woolf also emphasizes the importance of reading to Mrs. Ramsay and the importance of reading his wife in a distorted way to Mr. Ramsay in later moments between the couple, when Mr. Ramsay wants his wife to say that she loves him and she cannot. He feels that he has “triumphed again (Woolf 124)” by not stating it. Although she can accurately signal to Mr. Ramsay that she loves him without saying it, this lack of ability to hold those three