John Gottman in his book claims that “a lasting marriage comes from a couple's ability to resolve conflicts that are inevitable in any relationship (p. 28)”. In his arguments, John explores the relationship between interpersonal communication and marital satisfaction. In doing so, he advances two hypotheses aimed at addressing problems within a relationship. The first hypothesis is that there is a private messaging system between couples, which improves communication in a healthy marriage. The second hypothesis is that a dissatisfied married couple shows a skill deficit in communicating with each other. The second hypothesis is not new at all. In fact, it accentuates communication as the cornerstone of every relationship. In his book, Gottman identifies four potentially destructive communication styles and coping mechanisms as well as signs of an impending divorce: hard starts, the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, flooding, and body language. However, to describe the destructive communication styles that directly contribute to a couple's feelings of disconnection, isolation, and distance, Dr. John effectively uses the metaphor of the Four Horsemen (p. 27), which describes the end times in the New Will. identifies the first knight as criticism (p. 27). This includes attacks on characters and global complaints ("You never..." or "You always..."). Criticism differs from simple complaints by one party about a specific situation or behavior. In fact, the way couples express dissatisfaction with each other about a given issue is extremely important in determining the direction of an argument. The second is contempt (p. 29). This refers to the use of sarcasm, teasing and a run… in the middle of a sheet of paper… and more along with an incident that demonstrates the characteristic and then read the list to each other. The third principle is learning to interact frequently (turning toward each other instead of away) (p. 75). According to Gottman, romance is fueled not just by candlelit dinners, but by constant interactions with your partner in different ways. In the last four principles, Gottman focuses on the importance of communication, negotiation, and conflict resolution (p. 99-264). In conclusion, Dr. John Gottman demonstrates how communication is vital in any relationship and not just marriage. Personally, I consider a relationship to be a mutual affair where each party plays a role to support it. In case of conflict with my partner, my strategy is not to criticize, but to give space to dialogue to establish the root cause of the conflict.